For the last year, I took a full hiatus from dating! No Tinder flings, no set-ups, no coffee dates, no nothing. I spent the whole year trying to find ME. And the thing I learned is that when you get out there and find yourself you will find a man at the end of it, which is great. Now I don’t have to do all that stuff anymore! Thank God!
The past year was a very fascinating time exploring who I am without the company of another human being. I was able to make personal choices free from the stress of another person’s life entangled with mine. I think I came out of it with a stronger sense of self, and I know I came out of it with a boyfriend, which is great because I don’t think I could have done it for much longer.
It probably would have been worth it if I came out of it single, but also I’m very thankful it didn’t come to that.
By the year’s end, I was able to find myself, my real self. I also found a stronger backbone, a sense of courage, and a perfect boyfriend that makes all that progress pretty much useless because I have a boyfriend now! And the best part looking deep within myself is that I never would’ve snatched this boy up if I hadn’t been off the dating grid, finding myself. But now that I’ve found myself, I can give all that up to just know him. It worked out perfectly, thank God, cause I have no idea what I’d be doing right now if I was still out there finding myself cause that shit was HARD.
In the end, I’m glad how things turned out. I got to take the time to myself, followed immediately by not having to take time to myself anymore. Because what sense does it make to find yourself if you don’t have anyone to share yourself with?
So if you’re like me and you want to be alone with just yourself, take the time to do it. And then hopefully you’ll never have to do it again!
