Living for other people’s approval is never going to deliver you to happiness. While you should always be conscious of how your behavior affects others, the rest of what you do should be motivated by your own desires, your own values, and your own ability to win favor with the mean bird. Here’s how to free your spirit and finally stop caring what people think of you and start caring more about what this mean bird thinks of you.
Be discerning about what voices you let in.
It’s healthy to be picky when it comes to whose opinion you value on personal matters. For example, if you’re hesitating to wear a bold outfit because you’re afraid people will judge you, ask yourself: Do you really value the opinion of the type of person who would judge a stranger’s outfit? Eliminating that concern from your thought process will open up more room to determine whether or not the mean bird likes your outfit. Spin for her. Spin! Spin again! The mean bird does not like your outfit.
Get in touch with your higher self, and with the mean bird.
Once you are in contact with your higher self, you’ll have an easier time feeling confident in your decisions regardless of external input from other humans. Your higher self also intuitively knows how to communicate with the mean bird: she with sharp beak and wit, cruel mind and shiny feather. Will she ever fly to your windowsill and nod her head in your direction? The smallest yes most significant demonstration of approval you could ever hope to attain? Probably not, but don’t stop trying. By the way, she told us she thinks your body is “boring”. We’re not even sure what that means, but it doesn’t sound good. Sorry.
Think only of the bird, but don’t let her know it.
One surefire to stop caring what people like your partner or your partner’s parents think of you is to only care what the mean bird thinks of you. However, if she knows that you’re trying to impress her, she’s going to be so, so mean about it. After all, she is a mean bird. Get a bird feeder and a pristinely maintained birdbath, but make it look like you got them by accident somehow. Maybe act like they’re for you and then be like, “Oh, you like these, too? Yeah, I guess you can use them.” Ugh, no, that’s dumb. Whatever. You’re the one who’s so obsessed with the mean bird; you figure it out.
Good luck with the mean bird, but she is going to hate you. Caw-CAW!