In a tale of subterfuge and profound moral deficiency, your friend Lila Spiros suddenly wants kids, even though that’s not what she said ten years ago.
“It’s true that I’m not someone who’s always felt like I was meant to be a mom,” Lila says. “But I realize I was putting a lot of pressure on myself, and now that I’m with someone I love and can lean on so much, and I really feel joyful and excited about the idea of starting a family with them.”
What an absolute Judas.
Naturally, you are gutted and destabilized by this neck-breaking turn of events.
“I just feel a bit blindsided, like I’ve been made a fool,” you say. “Just ten years ago, Lila and were totally on the same page that kids were expensive and scary and overrated. Then she suddenly spends seven years with a partner, her sister has a kid with whom she deeply connects and loves caring for, and now she’s pulling a 180 out of thin air and leaving me on my ass?”
While Lila maintains her decision to have a child should not inform what reproductive choices you make and “isn’t really about you at all”, it’s hard for those with clear eyes to interpret the unseemly string of events in such a charitable manner.
“I just thought that we were in childlessness together for the long haul because of that conversation we had on a road trip in 2013,” you say. “I guess people change or whatever, and maybe it’s on me for not checking in at any point over the last decade, but in most friendships, you don’t have to check in like, ‘Hey, are you going to betray me?’”
“The whole thing just feels very selfish,” you add. “I hope she doesn’t expect me to be the godmother.”
Lila was quick to confirm with reporters that she doesn’t.
“The whole thing is really hard,” you say. “But at the end of the day, I have to respect her erratic choices, and just really be there for her, showing her how much chiller and better childless life is.”
More power to you for taking the highroad!