Would you rather…be raped, or come off as pushy? Tough question, right? Sure, maybe you think you’ll be able to say, “It’s not you, it’s me,” while running from that dark alley, but a majority of rapes are committed by someone the victim knows. This makes it all the more important that he doesn’t think you’re a bitch for fending him off. Here are some rape prevention tips that will help you avoid an awkward post-rape run-in:
Say “No” nicely.
No means no. But it doesn’t have to sound like a hard no. Be demure. Be feminine. Be firm, but in a soft way. It might seem like you’re leaving the door open, but know in your head it’s the door to him not hating you later, not the door to unwanted sexual intercourse.
Be assertive – but not too assertive.
Look straight into his eyes and purr something assertive, like, “You’re being inappropriate. I need you to stop.” Your gentle murmur will clearly send the message, “Don’t rape me, but don’t hate me either.” You can have your cake and eat it too!
Make it clear you do NOT want to have sex because you’re on your period.
The best way to take a stand and defend yourself is by making up an excuse while awkwardly avoiding eye contact. Why use your period? Because even women want to nothing to do with them, and we’re the ones who have them. What kind of weirdo would want icky-ick period blood on his crotch?
Remember SRF: Stun, Run, But Fun!
If you find yourself in a dangerous or uncomfortable situation, get out of there as quickly as possible with this helpful safety acronym: Stun, Run, but Fun. Tase your attacker and get the hell out of there, but flip your hair while you flee. Look back and give him a flirty wink that says, “nice try, you brute!” But not too flirty – men are fast!
Decide what’s appropriate in your situation.
Every situation is different. Decide what is appropriate in your situation. For instance, a playful giggle while you push him off is completely appropriate unless his penis is already out. Then it is never appropriate to giggle. And if he’s chasing after you, you’re gonna want to save your breath for yelling while running.
Be realistic.
How important is this guy? Is the captain of the football team? President of your company? A state senator? This will dictate how demure yet tough you will need to be.
After a night of resisting while using your feminine charm, he might hate your “mixed signals,” but at least he won’t hate you.
