Your boyfriend asked you to try choking him – congrats! It’s normal to be nervous about not knowing what to do, but perhaps there is another, more hidden part of you that’s worried about something else. You’re worried choking him will awaken a deep, murderous rage in you, a rage that will consume and haunt you, changing you forever. Here’s how to choke him hard enough that he likes it but not hard enough that you start to like it a little bit too much.
Start slow.
Nobody likes to be immediately thrown into an MMA-style Triangle Choke and rendered unconscious within 15 seconds. Take your time! Let the tension build, and dear God, whatever you do, don’t rub your hands together beforehand, letting yourself get into a headspace of a killer. Be sexy about it! Don’t be weird.
Make sure the two of you are communicating.
When you’re trying out a new move in the bedroom, it can be easy to go silent with concentration, but make sure that you’re still checking in with your partner. For example, try saying things like, “Is this hard enough?” or “Can you still breathe okay?” or “Would you still love me if I committed an unspeakable crime? Like, unspeakable unspeakable?” Checking in will also keep you from getting lost in the sheer joy of having your hands around someone’s neck, because once again, once you get lost in it, there’s no coming back…
If you start to like it too much, take a break!
So, you’re choking him, he’s having a great time, and you find yourself thinking, “FINISH HIM.” No reason to panic! Just remove your hands from his person and quickly mutter that you have to use the bathroom. Splash some water on your face, slap yourself a few times, and be sure to look in the mirror, point at yourself, and whisper, “NO. You will not kill your boyfriend. BAD.”
Stop, just stop! It’s too risky! Abort!
Ultimately, the risk of you having too much fun and awakening a latent part of yourself that you will never be able to subdue again is too great. Just tell him you’re uncomfortable with the choking! You don’t have to tell him that it’s because you like it too much. That’s between you and God.
There you have it! A quick and easy beginner’s guide to getting into choking and then immediately getting out of choking. Enjoy!
