Most of us are familiar with the violent patriarchal roots of legal marriage and its accompanying ceremony, but what we must also remain vigilant to more recent issues that have cropped up along with the evolution of modern weddings. It’s all too easy for an event that you intended to be a progressive reclamation of a loaded tradition to become poisoned by sexism and consumerism. That’s why I am taking a stand against the wedding industrial complex and getting married in this three-piece zoot suit.
You might be thinking, there are so many practical ways to resist the harmful aspects of traditional weddings, why choose this? Well, I hear that, but what object is more symbolic of patriarchy than the white dress? That antiquated token of “purity”? To that, some will say: then why not just wear any color dress you want? Why wear a suit that historically has been primarily worn by Black, Latino, Filipino, and Italian-Americans, and other than that is mostly associated with Jim Carey, and all in all has nothing to do with you? And to that I say, this is my fucking wedding. Why are you questioning me so much? Is this not a good idea? I already bought the zoot suit, and it honestly cost more than I expected. Oh, God.
And look, it’s not a gender thing. While the construct of marriage itself is steeped in heterosexism and normativity, my choice to wear a tan three-piece zoot suit isn’t really about that, nor is it about my own gender expression. At least I don’t think? I haven’t really worked out all the implications of this. I just had this idea one night that getting married in a zoot suit would be a real fuck you to The Man, and also I was drunk, and now it’s sort of just happening.
I may not be able to fully breakdown the impact of wearing a zoot suit against the wedding industrial complex, but I just tried it on again, and it’s actually kind of cool. Plus I think it might be easier to defend as an aesthetic choice than a political one. Is this what I’m leaning into? Yes. I love my suit zoot; please don’t ask me about it.
And that is why I’m wearing a three-piece zoot suit to my wedding for some reason. I just hope it makes things a little bit better for the brides of the future. Now off to order a multi-hundred dollar cake!