When you’ve been in a committed relationship for a long time, it’s hard for your guy to remember things like anniversaries, birthdays, or that you’re dating each other. Maybe he thinks you two are friends, and maybe that’s been the status quo for a while because – whoops! – you forgot to tell him that you’re his girlfriend of many years. Not to worry! Try delivering the news gently, so as not to “freak him out.” It’s time to finally let him know that you decisively belong to each other, so follow these simple tips to give him the good news:
Create a pie chart.
Sometimes guys are really confused when you explain that you’re dating each other, and they don’t know how to handle their overwhelming emotions. Present him a pie chart documenting the percentages of the amount of time you spend together. Ideally, the pie chart will be mostly one color, because you two are inseparable, duh! If he can’t see that you two are dating each other despite spending most days together, that’s when you bring in the pie chart.
Contact him as often as possible.
Only girlfriends have the liberty of calling, texting, emailing, tweeting, Facebooking, and Instagramming their BFs as often as they like. Use this to your full advantage. Start calling him when you have nothing in particular to say, and do it often. “Check in” with him via text and Gchat. Call him when he’s at work. Skype him when you’re peeing. Facetime him when he’s pooping. Go nuts! Your unwavering love might catch him off guard at first, but soon he’ll see that you’re so much more than a friend.
Start texting his mom.
A relationship between a girl and her boyfriend’s mother is sacred. First, contact his mother through Facebook, wait for her to give you her cell number, and start texting her from there. Be sure to show off these texts when you’re with your guy, by playfully peppering in, “Your mom says hi!” when you check your phone in front of him. By the time the holidays roll around, he’ll be fully aware that you will be joining him at Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year’s.
Show him the scrapbook you made.
If your boyfriend doesn’t believe you when you explain that you’re his girlfriend, show him the scrapbook you’ve made! In the scrapbook should be first kisses, first dates, movie tickets, dinner receipts, locks of hair, and maybe used Band-Aids. He’ll find the effort you put into it endearing – something only a girlfriend would do.
Sometimes what you’re looking for is right in front of you. You know this, but does your boyfriend?