When you’re in a relationship, sometimes it feels like you’re speaking two different languages. You might find yourself banging your head against the wall, trying to get through to a man who you’ve never met because you have only communicated via Twitter. Don’t let that small detail stop you from working things out! Here’s how to communicate effectively with your man when your man is a person you’ve never met because he is just a dude on Twitter.
Accept that You Two Have Different Communication Styles
Sometimes the first step to figuring out how to communicate is recognizing that you two communicate differently. For example, maybe you like to ask a lot of questions to get to the root of things, and maybe he is a complete stranger who jumped into your mentions just to kind of neg you but maybe a flirty way? Try to see where he’s coming from so you can find some common ground instead of just mentioning each other over and over again because you don’t actually know him.
Be Nice!
You’re not going to get through to your guy if you start throwing insults at him, especially if he is a stranger on Twitter who may or may not look like the man in his avatar. Since insults will only drive him away or make him block you, just put your best foot forward and eventually, when the Mountain Dew wears off, he will be ready to reconcile and go back to your relationship, which mostly involves fav-ing each other and the occasional retweet.
Be An Active Listener
Show your man you really care about what he’s saying. Maybe he feels like you two have lost intimacy, or maybe he has a girlfriend and hasn’t been using Twitter to DM women he thinks are cute. Either way, it’s important to show him you hear what he’s saying, with something like, “Mhmm…I can see why you’d feel that way.” Or just favoriting old tweets from 2011. Either way, he definitely doesn’t know your last name!
Ask For What You Need
It’s helpful for men if you set clear expectations going forward, like saying, “I don’t like it when you flirt with other women” or “I DO know where you live.” Asking for what you need can help to reconcile whatever disagreements you’ve had over Taylor Swift this week.
Men are from Mars, right? However, it’s not impossible to build a healthy dialogue with the man in your life, even if you’ve never met him and he doesn’t give a shit about you in any way. Trust us, it’s worth your time!
