Many people are polyamorous – desiring or engaging in multiple relationships with more than one person. Ethical non-monogamy has been an extremely hot topic lately, with more and more people trying out dating multiple people with the consent of everyone involved for the first time, but that doesn’t mean it’s always a walk in the park. For example, what if you’re deeply afraid of seeing too many holes at once? Here’s how to be polyamorous even when you also have trypophobia:
Schedule plenty of space in between time with your partners.
If you have trypophobia, it’s probably a lot easier to date multiple people if you’re only dealing with a few holes at a time in a given time slot. If you’re meeting people back-to-back, you risk overloading your nervous system by confronting several sets of holes without any downtime in between. So, next time you have a date or hookup, make sure to give yourself downtime to relax before and afterwards. After all, wanting to interact with a variety of holes can be a blessing, but it can also be a curse if you’re not careful.
Close your eyes during sex.
Out of sight, out of mind! Facing hole after hole can be a stressful experience for someone with trypophobia, but if it’s only the sight of the holes that’s bothering you, try explaining this to your partner and letting them know that you’ll have to close your eyes once their underwear comes off. If they really care about you and your needs, they’ll surely understand.
Try exposure therapy.
This method may not be for everyone, but another way to come to terms with your trypophobia is by using relaxation techniques like breathing exercises, meditation, and guided visualization while coming into contact with your fears. If you’re up for it, try going to an orgy while practicing one or more of these mindfulness practices. If you can hold your own while looking at several different holes all over the room, having multiple relationships afterwards could potentially feel so much easier than before!
Navigating polyamory and trypophobia can both be difficult, but they’re even more challenging when put together. However, don’t fret! You can still experience all the holes you want despite your fear of them. The next time you plan a date with someone you matched with on Feeld, try out one or more of these tips and hopefully managing your relationships and phobia will become a lot easier. And if all else fails, maybe just stick to dry-humping?
