It’s important for women to stick together and be honest with each other, especially when it comes to dating. I hate to see women with guys who don’t deserve them, and I am an authority on that because I’m in a really secure, fulfilling, nuanced, complicated relationship right now. Here are some sure signs that this guy is not the one for you, but please don’t pretend to understand what goes on in my personal life because you don’t know me or my situation.
He Doesn’t Show Interest in Your Life (and His Life Isn’t Super Hectic, Like Nick’s)
A romantic relationship should be a two-way street: If he treats you like a receptacle for his musings and stories and doesn’t return the favor, show him the door. But please don’t try to act like that’s what Nick does to me; his promotion and the fact that his ex keeps texting him has left him with so much to deal with. You just don’t get it.
He Frequently Loses His Temper (but He Also Could Be Going Through a Lot)
He. Went. There. He yelled at you, and now your only option is to get out of there, and quick. No offense, but I’m honestly amazed that you associated yourself with someone like that in the first place. Oh, that screaming fight I had with Nick on Wednesday night? He’s had so much shit going on, and he feels bad about it. It’s important that he’s aware of his behavior, and he promised it’ll get better. But remember: Do as I say, not as I do with Nick because Nick is different.
If He Doesn’t Like Your Friends, He Probably Doesn’t Like You (Unless Your Friends, Like Mine, Are Total Bitches)
You love your BFFs and your man, so there is no reason at all why they shouldn’t love each other. If he doesn’t like your friends, there’s no reason at all that you should stay with him. I mean yeah, Nick refuses to hang out with my friends, but he’s right; they are all kind of crazy bitches! I get where he’s coming from. Because that’s the kind of connection we have. But you deserve better than that—because your situation is objectively worse than mine!
You Deserve Someone Who Publicly Shows Affection (Unless He’s Independent Enough To Not Believe In Labels)
If he seems squeamish about kissing you in public, calling you his girlfriend, or introducing you to his friends and family, he clearly has no respect for you at all. No one should feel embarrassed about dating someone as great as you are. Obviously, it’s an entirely different situation with intellectual, creative types. Men like Nick don’t believe in labeling things. Our relationship is bigger than that.
WHAT? He Doesn’t Go Down On You? (And He Doesn’t Have Back Pain?)
If your man doesn’t eat you out at least six times a week, it shouldn’t even be a question. Dump him, and never look back. There are plenty of fish in the sea, but you should just make sure they don’t have a chronically bad back that prevents him from going down on you. Which would be a shame, but definitely not Nick’s fault. Nick needs to save his back strength for the gym.
Cheating Is NEVER Okay (Unless It’s A Really Fraught New Year’s)
Any kind of cheating is a huge no-no. No woman should have to put up with that, and you will be better off without that scumbag. What an idiot! When Nick slept with that girl at that party last year? Unless you’re in our relationship, it’s impossible to understand, but he was really drunk, I was being distant because of my mom’s colonoscopy, and he was in a weird mood.
Some things just aren’t complicated. Get out of that relationship as fast as you can so you can be as happy as I am!
