Using The Secret to Navigate Negative Conversations

The Secret

Negative energy finds its way into our lives no matter how hard we try to flush it out. But how do we block out other people’s negativity and misfortune without offending them? Use these tried-and-true tips from The Secret to alienate the negative Nancies in your life, in the most positive way possible!

Begin your criticism with: “I’m so happy and grateful that…

Next time Meryl tries to engage you in her sad, boring conversations, set the tone from the start with, “I’m so happy and grateful now that you won’t be boring me with all of the tedious details of your life!” These statements of intent can change the tides surprisingly quickly!

Bring joy and laughter to every dialogue.

Next time your depressing friend Betty starts talking about her chronically ill partner, remind her of life’s joys by responding to her with a hearty belly laugh! She’ll be sure to thank you for your thoughtfulness—after all, “those who speak most of illness have illness, those who speak most of prosperity have it…”

Write your script. When you see things you don’t want, don’t think, write, or talk about them.

Your thoughts become things, so only think about what you want: next time sad sack Sally starts asking you to focus on spreadsheets or sales goals, simply change your focus – stop listening, and focus your attention on something that excites you. Keep a vision board, like Pinterest, available on your smart phone, so you can redirect positive focus easily when someone is bringing you down with their negativity.


EVERYTHING in your life is something you have attracted. Accept that.

Next time tragic Tiffany starts wanting to cry on your shoulder, remind her that she was asking for it, and to move on. Use it as an opportunity to share with her what you’re grateful for. Tell her about your new car. Talk about the things that you’ll be grateful for in the coming weeks. Remember, “what we think about and THANK about is what we bring about.” Don’t think about it too much. Just know that you’re leading by example.