It’s only human to worry what others think of you, but worrying too much can make you less, well, you. And if you’re not yourself, you’re not likable. Here’s a simple guide to stop caring what people think so they’ll like you more.
Have enough confidence in your opinions to impress people.
It’s important to have enough confidence in your opinions so that people will assume you’re really smart and be impressed by what you’re saying. After all, no one likes a pushover! Try developing a strong point of view on something, and don’t be afraid to start small. It can be as simple as, “I fucking love the color green” or “Scandal was really good for three seasons, but if I have to watch Kerry Washington drink wine and make out with the President for one more I’ll punch a wall.” Refuse to second-guess this opinion even when other people disagree. They’ll be impressed by your confidence, causing them to like you more. Score!
Put yourself out there in front of people.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. If you want to wear a velvet pantsuit to your Zumba class, do it! Start a mommy blog—even if you’re not a mommy. Ask out the cute barista who always draws a butt in your latte. Basically, stop waiting for the right validation to finally be yourself. Because when you’re not afraid to exist without permission, people will see that and think, “Wow, I want to be that woman’s friend!” and then you’ll have a ton of friends who like you so much. Remember: That’s why you’re doing this!
Stop overthinking what people think of you.
Stop overthinking what people think of you. Getting lost in a cycle of self-doubt can lead to a loss of confidence, which makes you look bad. So get your shit together! People love it when you have your shit together. This is about other people.
Substitute alcohol for eggnog.
Avoid reliance on alcohol to keep your brain quiet by substituting it for eggnog. This tip is not doctor recommended, or guaranteed to make anyone like you! However, eggnog makes a great alternative to substances for those who enjoy sugary liquefied eggs.
Never speak to people again.
Of course, the simplest way to stop caring what people think is to never, ever be around them. Remaining a scarce resource to others will cause them to see you as a mystery, like an Agatha Christie novel. And everyone loves Murder on the Orient Express! Or at least they did in 1934.
Not worrying what people think can be difficult, but if you follow these steps you’ll be well on your way to achieving the kind of self-confidence that will definitely make them like you more.